Wedding Dates, How Couples Really Feel

Marta BlockContributor

We often talk about picking the right wedding date as being one of the most important steps in wedding planning.

The date you choose can affect everything from attendance to cost, but in the long run, how important is it? How do people who chose wedding dates that others thought weren't such a great idea feel about those dates later on?

In 2008, Amy and Aaron chose Easter Sunday for their wedding because they liked the way the numbers of the date lined up (3/23/08 = 3+2+3=8). Neither the couple nor their friends were religious and so the date didn't turn out to be a problem. However, Amy does slightly regret having the wedding as early in the morning as they did since quite a few of the under-30 crowd was hungover.

Robin Lee Cotton, a Huntsville Alabama realtor, and her husband chose Leap Day as their wedding date. At the time, they were both working retail and it was the only available Saturday between Valentine's Day and Mother's Day for a wedding. They've always enjoyed their unusual (and rarerly occurring) anniversary. The date even had an unexpected bonus, before 1998 the couple generally celebrated their anniversary on February 28th. But, in 1998 Robin's father died on the 28th. The couple was glad to be able to move their anniversary to March 1st.

In 2004, Christen and Brian chose September 11th as a wedding date for similar reasons. They wanted to avoid paying summer season prices and 9/11 was the only available Saturday in between Labor Day and the Jewish High Holidays. A few people questioned their choice, but since neither the couple nor friends had any family or friends directly affected by 9/11, they decided to go ahead. Today, Christen does admit that it's a little odd to share what's a happy day for them with a day of sadness for so many, but it doesn't really change the way they view their anniversary.

Altough they're both American, Maureen and her husband John got married in Ireland on October 31st, 1992. Halloween wasn't celebrated as heavily in Ireland (or even in the U.S. at the time) and the couple didn't think much about their choice of dates. However, years later when they started having children the couple realized it would be a while before they could actually celebrate their anniversary on their anniversary! John and Maureen have three kids, the youngest of whom is sixteen, and has Down's Syndrome. According to Maureen, the communications coordinator for an organization called Raising Special Kids, the youngest is still very interested in Halloween, meaning the couple has chosen to just celebrate their anniversary at various times throughout the year.

Canadian wedding photographer Ami Sanyal and his wife also had a late October wedding (October 30th). At the time they were planning the wedding the couple got a little annoyed with the constant assumptions and jokes that they'd be having a Halloween-themed wedding, but it hasn't proved to be a problem since the wedding.

Wedding planner Danielle Rothweiler, of Rothweiler Event Design, often finds herself trying to talk couples out of unfortunate wedding dates. She remembers one couple in particular who wanted to have a Memorial Day Weekend wedding on the Jersey Shore. Rothweiler tried to let the couple know that the date could affect attendance, but the bride was insistent. In the end, almost half of her guest list declined and even some who accepted did not attend the wedding, leaving her with an empty ceremony.

It's not surprising that the bride didn't  listen to Rothweiler though as any conversation about wedding dates always draws equal number of people who believe strongly that three-day weekends are a great idea for a wedding and a horrible idea.

Maureen and John Mills and their non-Halloween Halloween wedding in Ireland!