Shameless or Special: The Second Baby Shower

Terri Zimmer


Baby showers for a second baby have long been thought of as faux pas, marking expectant Moms as greedy or showy. However, that standard is changing, and new parents want to welcome Baby #2 into the world with just as much fanfare as the first.


The growing trend is to put a fresh spin on the standard baby shower for the second (or third, or more!) baby. So technically, you’re not throwing a huge shower, but you’re still allowed to celebrate.

Get around tricky etiquette issues by down-playing gifts. Having a registry is kind of a gray area, but guests will bring gifts even if you don’t outright ask for them. If you do opt to register, keep it to the basics –diapers, bottles, blankets, maybe a fresh Diaper Genie – anything a wise, second-time Mom needs to stock up on.

Distance yourself even further from the second-shower-stigma by putting a fresh, new spin and throwing an alternative to the standard shower, like these:

Gender Reveal Party
Learning the gender of your baby-to-be is a legitimate reason to celebrate – and more and more couples are adding this to the list of must-do pre-baby parties. It’s a fabulous excuse to gather friends and get excited about your bundle of joy. Have the doctor seal your ultrasound results so you can be surprised too. Pass the info off to a trusted friend to set up the big reveal. Popular options are cakes or cupcakes filled with pink or blue frosting, or a big box o’ balloons to open up in front of everyone.


Source: Hostess with the Mostess


Source: Hostess with the Mostess 

A Baby Sprinkle is the classic alternative to a shower, particularly if Baby #2 is a different gender than the first-born. It’s a smaller, lower-key affair, typically only involving close friends and family. A sprinkle skips the awkward shower games, extended gift-opening process, and other shower standards. It can be a little party – complete with theme –  a light meal, or a day at the spa to pamper the expectant Mom.

Sip & See
A Sip & See happens after the baby is born. This party is hosted by the parents, typically at their house. Guests are invited to come by and enjoy some snacks and drinks to sip as they see the new baby – see how that works? It’s intended to be a low-key party, but you can perk it up with some extras. Hire a bartender or a caterer to make this party as easy to throw as possible while you’re fighting newborn-exhaustion.  

Crafty Welcome
Host a craft-focused party for the new mom-to-be-again. Set up a fun-but-useful activity for guests. Find inspiration in the BYOB Painting class trend, but trade the canvases for white onesies, and swap cocktails for mocktails (for the guest of honor anyway). The Mom will walk away with a handful of much-needed onesies and a headful of fun memories for every baby costume change.


Source (and an amazing how-to!): Gabriel's Good Tidings


Source: Life on a Mission

Everyone Bring A…
Truly avoid the second-shower stink-eye when it comes to gifts by requesting something simple and specific for each guest to bring. Popular options are kid’s books, letters, clothes, baby food recipes, or even advice to add to a scrapbook.


Source: Cookie Mondays 


Source: Pinterest 


Get second-shower inspiration! Check out our Pinterest Board. You can also find even more party inspiration and theme ideas from The Bash.

Have you had a clever second shower party? Tell us in the comments and we might share your idea in upcoming articles!